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Beginner's Guide To Rope Bondage






So, you’ve decided to tie the knot? Well rope bondage is one experience that guarantees to bind you for life!


Rope work is staple play for the majority of BDSM enthusiasts. Not only does it keep that ‘naughty’ sub firmly in their place, it sets a superb scene and looks incredible. So if you revel in restraint, are curious about kinbaku, or simply think you’re about ready to be tied down, you’ve come to the right place. As always, UberKinky is here to show you the ropes!

 
safety

Safety First!

We know you hate it when we get tied up talking about safety, but to avoid the bottom feeling at all ‘ropey’ as a result of this play, it’s essential that you pay close attention!

Firstly, it’s imperative that ropes are never tied too tightly; try to leave room for one or two fingers between the bottom’s skin and the rope. Movement and pressure can cause knots to tighten, so this additional squirming space is a necessity. Don't be afraid to cut someone out if things go awry. Rope is replaceable; your bottom on the other hand is not!

Please also remember to keep a close eye on what the trailing end of your rope is up to. A quick movement could cause it to jump up and whip you or your bottom in the face. To avoid unwarranted and extremely painful chastisement, try wrapping the rope around your hand. Not only is this safer, it can also make your rope work easier and help to keep things neat and tidy in your play.

The biggest concern when it comes to rope bondage is circulation. Signs of circulatory problems include tingling, loss of sensation, a drop in temperature, or a change in skin colour. If any of these symptoms occur, it is vital that the scene is stopped immediately. Don’t be afraid to use your safe word/action, like any art form rope work takes practice. We recommend trying your moves out on a mannequin, blow up doll or even a plushy toy before dressing your bottom up in their new rope regalia, after all practice makes perfect.

There may be lots to consider, but have no fear; if you follow these simple tips, we promise that your rope reverie will never become a knotting nightmare!

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Do

  • Expand pressure points by using multiple coils (wraps)
  • Make sure coils are side by side; never cross the rope
  • Practice tying and untying knots beforehand
  • Apply warmth after scene to get the blood flowing
  • Discuss boundaries and decide on a safe word/action
  • Stop immediately if the bottom experiences pain or signs of circulatory problems
  • Remove restraints carefully to prevent rope burn
  • Have a pair of blunt scissors handy. Ideally they should be angled like EMT scissors
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Don't

  • Tie knots too tightly; follow the finger rule and allow additional space around the rib cage
  • Leave a bound bottom unattended
  • Attempt suspension bondage without proper training
  • Use a gag, unless a safe action has been decided upon
  • Engage in rope bondage if the bottom has a heart/respiratory/circulatory condition
  • Play in the dark – the bottom needs to be watched over
  • Use a slip style knot around the neck, or restrict breathing in any way
 
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Types of Rope Bondage

If you thought all you needed was a willing partner, some ropes, and the ability to tie a knot, don’t be surprised if what you actually end up with is an disgruntled bottom telling you to “get knotted”! There are many different ways people choose to engage in rope bondage, but here are the UberKinky tried and tested methods;


Symmetrical

For all of you neat freaks! Symmetrical rope bondage is a comfortable choice, making it ideal for beginners. It promotes a calming environment and delivers mirrored perfection. One example of symmetrical rope bondage is tying both of the hands together.

Asymmetrical

Want to mix things up? Asymmetrical rope bondage is a good choice for punishment as it can be uncomfortable and is harder to adapt to than symmetrical. For that reason, we wouldn’t recommend it to beginners. One example of asymmetrical rope bondage is tying the right wrist to the left ankle.

Suspension Bondage

For keeping the bottom in suspense! We cannot stress this enough; do not try suspension bondage unless you have undergone some serious training beforehand. Even then it is essential to have an expert present the first few times you try; and whatever you do, don’t leave them hanging!

Japanese Rope Bondage

Want to learn the fine art of shibari and kinbaku? This beautiful skill is inspired by Hojojutsu (Japanese martial art) ties. Not only does this kind of rope work look incredible, it feels that way too, with some of the ties actually intended to stimulate your best bits. Japanese rope bondage uses asymmetrical positions to heighten the psychological as well as physical impact. Check out our Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage for more information.

 
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Knotting Know-How

It’s time to put your Girl Guide/Boy Scout training to the test! Don’t tell us you weren’t paying attention back then? Well, luckily for you, UberKinky is always helping you to ‘be prepared’! So here are just three knots to get you started...

Square/Reef Knot


1. For those that want to tie up loose ends! The square/reef knot is a good choice for rope bondage as it applies less pressure to the skin. Used for trying two ropes together, or both ends of the same rope.

 
Bowline


2. Tie a bow around your sub and turn them into your perfect gift! A bowline knot is perfect for binding the wrists and ankles. It won’t tighten, so you needn’t worry about circulatory problems.

 
Clove Hitch


3. Want your rope work to go without a hitch? Well, this type of knot is perfect for use when tying to posts. However, it shouldn’t be used for suspension bondage or around the body.

 
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Video Guides

Feeling slightly overwhelmed at the prospect of creating your own restraints, but eager to give it a go? Then have no fear; here are a few video tutorials to help you produce some simple yet extremely effective ties.


Meow! The bottom may hiss a bit, but there definitely won’t be any scratching when their hands are fastened in this restraint. Perfect for tying up or down, whether to your dungeon furniture or posts, the Cat’s Paw will keep the bottom secure for the duration of their punishment.

When it comes to the bottom’s release, our hands are tied. However, this is a great tie for beginners as it can easily be removed. Designed to stop those fingers from reaching for things that they shouldn’t, the wrists are tied together and the rope is then fastened behind the back to secure in place.

Cuff em’. A fantastic alternative to the typical ties used when preparing for a flogging. Other restraints tend to put a lot of pressure on the wrists, whereas the Rope Flogging Cuffs spread the weight evenly across the whole hand.

This is definitely one occasion where the wrapping is better than the unwrapping! The Ankle Wrap is perfect for any BDSM scene as it is designed to immobilise the bottom completely. It is sometimes used to keep the feet together in suspension bondage.

Which Rope Should I Choose?

Which Rope Should I Choose?

Silk

Silk

We’d like to see the bottom try to worm their way out of a silk rope! Silk ropes feel exceptionally smooth against the skin, are friction free and extremely comfortable. This makes them the ideal choice for beginners, as well as for Japanese rope bondage.

Hemp

Hemp

An oldie, but a goody! Hemp is the traditional choice when it comes to rope work. It is strong, durable and will certainly add to the aesthetics of your play! Many people find Hemp uncomfortable, scratchy and difficult to untie. However, it does soften after being washed a few times. Hemp rope should never be used for suspension bondage and it tightens when wet.

Cotton

Cotton

Cotton may look like a softy, and in this case looks aren’t at all deceptive! When it comes to rope bondage, cotton is extremely comfortable. However, it has significant stretch and doesn’t hold knots well. In addition, cotton retains moisture, meaning it is likely to hold germs. Cotton rope should never be used for suspension bondage.

Silicone

Silicone

Our flexible friend! Silicone ropes are smooth and stretchy yet restrictive. They warm up well to body temperature and are non porous, meaning that they won’t harbour bacteria. However, some people consider silicone to be too stretchy for this type of bondage and it can pinch the skin where knots are tied.

Other Synthetic Materials

Synthetic Materials

For an experience that will be anything other than synthetic! These materials can be smooth and robust, but some (especially plastic) are stiff and can be difficult to bend, which is not ideal when tying knots. Although versatile, you may find that synthetic materials cause rope burn much easier than other natural fibres.

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Aftercare

And...scene! So you’ve finished your rope play, but now what? Well, the bottom may be feeling a little stiff at this point, so take good care when untying them. Post release, try giving them a sensual massage; gently soothe those pressure points and show some well deserved affection. It’s a good idea to have a blanket or warm towel handy for stimulating blood flow. Now all you need to do is look forward to the next time!

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Rope Care

A rope is for life, not just for a scene... well it certainly can be, if it’s shown the appropriate care! It is a good idea to clean ropes through prior to first use, and try to keep them off the ground during your play. This will avoid any unwelcome ‘friends’ taking up an invitation to join you.

For aftercare, wash ropes with warm water and soap. Alternatively, for a simpler clean you can pull your rope through a warm, damp cloth. In both of these cases it is imperative to make sure that the rope is completely dry prior to storage.

For a thorough clean, hemp ropes can be washed on a gentle cycle in the washing machine or dishwasher. Nylon and cotton ropes can be bleached to keep them spic and span, however, this can weaken the fabric over time. Fabric softener can also be used to soften your ropes; however this can significantly reduce their life span too.

We know you like getting ‘dirty’, but there’s ‘dirty’, and then there’s dirty; so be sure to show your rope some respect!

 

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Further Reading

Now, why not tie everything up nicely, by taking a look at our UberKinky restraint guides?

5 Reasons You Should Try Restraints
Beginner's Guide to Restraints